Lisna Dwi - A Productive Mom Lifestyle

Assalamu'alaikum wr wb,

Ahh sudah lama ngga posting. Draft si banyaaaak, tapi ngga ada yang selesai, hahaha. Nah sebelum basi, mau cerita soal ulangtahun kedua putri pertama kami, Nayandra Alisha Latief atau biasa kami sapa Naya, 12 September 2015 lalu. Time really really flies. Ungkapan tiap orangtua yang bilang perasaan baru ngelahirin kemarin atau perasaan kemarin masih ditimang-timang, lah sekarang udah lari ngibrit. :'D That's so true. Sama sekali ngga lebay. Kadang suka ngebatin, don't grow up too fast my little baby girl. *mewek*


What we did then? Kali ini ngga ada yang spesial si, hanya tiup lilin dan makan bersama. Perayaan kecil-kecilannya dibarengin sama ulangtahun papa di 19 September 2015. Agak beda pas ulangtahun pertama dulu yang dibela-belain bikin video. Maafkan mamaaa.. :(( Tapi tetep beli kue ulangtahun, dan ngomong-ngomong mamanya ini lagi dalam program diet ketat. Jadilah pas pilih-pilih kue ngileeerrr.. Kenapa ngga dirayain? Karena eh karena kami pikir Naya belum bisa mengingat momen ulangtahunnya. Dan saya dan suami juga maunya ulangtahun sederhana untuk naya, ngga perlu mewah yang penting keluarga kumpul sambil berdoa bersama. Nantilah kalo sudah sekolah dan naya sudah bisa mengingat momen tersebut, inshaa Allah akan dirayakan.

Deretan kue di http://www.cheesecakeindonesia.com/

What's so special about being two-year-old little girl's parent? Excited, happy, worry, amazed, joyful and last but not least grateful for everything. Gimana buibu dan pakbapak di luar sana perasaannyaaaa? Naya alhamdulillah tumbuh jadi anak sholehah (aamiin), sehat, jarang sekali sakit, masih ASI (bahkan hingga tulisan ini dipublish :'D), ceria, pintar, ramah, dan super duper aktif. Hanya saja kadang yang bikin khawatir kemampuan bicara naya yang belum terlalu banyak. Memang si milestone pertumbuhan anak itu berbeda. Tapi rasa khawatir itu ada. Sebisa mungkin kami ajak ngobrol, kenalkan berbagai macam benda, baca doa, shalat bareng, bernyanyi, dsb. Dan hingga kini pun masih kepikiran untuk konsultasi dengan ahli tumbuh kembang anak. Well, let's see deh. Overall hingga sekarang, naya sudah bisa menyebutkan macam-macam nama benda, dan menyusun beberapa kalimat sederhana. Yang paling jago si, "Ini apa?" "Mama mimi" "Ini berapa?" "Mau lagi" etc, dan yang terbaru "Ini (ru)mah kakek" "Ini (ga)mbar bebek". Tapi sesuka hati anak itulah, kadang dia baru mau ngomong kalo dia mau ngomong. Kalo disuruh, malah mogok, hahaha.

Bukannya tiup lilin, naya pegang apinya dulu.. :))

Our happy faces, naya malah lempeng aja.. :'D

Dengan Kakek & Nenek

Dan menjelang naya 2 tahun kemarin dapat kejutan bahagia tapi bikin patah hati juga si, embak yang biasa ngasuh naya mau nikah bulan depan. Hwaaaa, drama cari mbak baru deh. Fiuuuh.. Alhamdulillah sebelum mba nisa pulang si udah dapat, jadi ada waktu buat training. Tapi ya begitulah, si mbak baru ini baru pengalaman kerja setahun dan mesti perlu banyak diajarin. Naya pun belum bisa terlalu dekat karena masih ada mbak yang lama. Kadang malah jadi agak galak nayanya. :'D Semoga seiring berjalan waktu si mbak baru ini bisa makin oke deh kerjaannya dan makin dekat sama naya. Pucing pala berbieee.. hahahaha.

Untuk naya, mungkin suatu hari bisa membaca catatan mama di blog ini. Semoga naya jadi anak yang sholehah, sehat selalu, makin pintar, selalu ramah dan ceria, pintar makannya, disempurnakan pertumbuhannya, dan selalu dirahmati Allah swt. Mama papa love you so so much, it's beyond words, beyond everything. We know we fall for everyday. We fall for you every time you hug us. We fall for you each time we see you're asleep. We fall for you each and every second. Semoga Allah memberikan mama papa ilmu untuk mendidik naya, memberikan kekuatan dan kesabaran untuk membimbing naya, memberikan berkah dan rizki untuk membesarkan naya. Karena naya adalah amanah Allah yang paling indah. *can't help my self for not crying*

Love you, life. :D

Wassalamu'alaikum wr wb.

Waaaw, almost 2 months since my last post, hehehe.. Lama yaaah, maklum lagi sok sibuk. :)) Alhamdulillah masih diberi banyak kesibukan; sibuk kerja, jualan, dan belakangan sibuk nyiapin sesuatu yang spesial, ehem ehem, hohoho.. Yah pokoknya sibuknya bikin super duper bahagia.

Perkembangan bisnis lagi agak stuck sebenernya, karena ada sesuatu yang lebih urgent untuk dilakukan. Tapi insya Allah sesuatu ini adalah sesuatu yang lebih besar. Amin allahuma amiin.. Kalo meminjam istilah Syahrini, sesuatuuuu banget, hahahaha... Tapi tetep dijalanin karena target akhir tahun punya toko kudu tercapai.

Apalagi yah?! Saking kelamaan jadi banyak yg keskip, hehehe.. Oia, beberapa waktu lalu ikut training yang diadakan sama Asia Works. Semacam training motivational gitu, klo yang gw tangkep si yah itu tentang bagaimana reframing dan mengubah mindset kita yang kurang oke selama ini. Yang paling kena ke gw adalah mengenai konsep Victim and Responsible. Ternyata setelah melalui sesi itu, gw dan mungkin banyak juga orang di luar sana, terlalu sering menempatkan dirinya sebagai korban. Sukaaaa banget tuh jadi korban, jadi pihak yang paling dirugikan. Kenapa suka jadi korban? Karena, klo jadi korban itu jadi dapat simpati, dapat alasan untuk menghindar, dapat perhatian, dapat excuse untuk melewatkan kewajiban, dapat pembelaan. Apalagi klo jadi korbannya sambil nangis-nangis berurai air mata, pasang muka sakit, dan bikin drama. Hahahaha.. Padahaaaaaal, apa yang terjadi sama diri gw saat ini adalah tanggung jawab gw. Gw ikut berperan dalam hasil yang gw alami. Kalo hasilnya ngga enak itu adalah resiko yang harus gw tanggung, bukan lantas menempatkan diri sebagai satu-satunya korban yang paling menderita sedunia, hahaha.. Padahal bisa jadi kalo mau ngomongin siapa korbannya, korban dari gw atau seseorang itu lebih banyak lagi, ngga cuma satu individu, mungkin korbannya bisa 1 individu, 2 keluarga, 3 kelompok atau 4 kompi bahkan. Nah, jadi jangan berperan jadi korban terus deh. Yah kecuali kalo mau terus-terusan berharap simpati, dikasihanin dan dapat perhatian sih.

Tapiiii, jangan salah dengan menyalahkan diri sendiri yah. Menyalahkan diri sendiri itu ngga baik, bukan dilihat dari sudut pandang itu. Tapi lihat dari, apapun kejadian yang menimpa kita, kita ikut andil dan bertanggung jawab atasnya. Jadi, kalo mau minta pertanggungjawaban dari orang lain, dan berpikir orang lain itu satu-satunya yang harus tanggung jawab, pokoknya kekeuh ngga mau tau dia harus tanggung jawab *lebaay*, yah pikir ulang. Kasarnya ni, ya "Elonya juga kasih ruang buat tuh kejadian. Elonya juga mengijinkan buat tuh kejadian. Elonya juga yang ngga mikir akibatnya ngelakuin itu." Ya kurang lebih gitu.

Jadiiiii, apa yang saya jalani sekarang adalah..hal yang saya siap untuk dan bertanggung jawab atasnya. And for what I'm enjoying now, that's the risk I'm willing to take. :D

And still... Love you, life. :D

Hey it's new year, 2012. Let's leave 2011 behind with all the highest gratitude to the Owner of Universe, Allah swt. For the good and bad. For the joy and sadness. For the health and sickness. For ups and downs. For weird and incredible moments. For everything... Alhamdulillah, ya Rab.

This year will be more colorful, of course with some bright and cheerful colors. Allah still puts me on a test in love life. Thanks Lord, that surely is the moment of awakening. ;D Well, though it's still under construction or maintenance period, I am very optimistic that everything will be beautiful in time. And insya Allah, I don't wanna be somebody I'm not, somebody I don't even know. It hurts people, including me myself.

Let's focus on a thing called Career. What's up in 2012? Let me tell you all, finally, alhamdulillah, I've got the opportunity to become a Brand Person! Yep, I've officially accepted in Brand Development Dept. or people usually call it Brand Team. That's what I've been dreaming of, my passion, my goal. It's not the end of my journey, it's a beginning! This year will become the start of my journey in brand. I will learn a lot, do a lot, catch up what I've been left behind. Yeah, it will be an adventurous year for me. Bismillaahirrahmaanirrahim...

I'm gonna share my journey on how I finally got there. It took almost 5 years to achieve that position. So long, huh, hahaha..

2007-2008 -- 1st phase of my career journey. I was a creative in a national television station. I learned a lot, had so much fun and worked hard, very hard, hahaha... I was intensely in touched with creative area, communication area, media, production process, entertainment industry, show, etc. It was fun world, no doubt. Although we worked real hard, crazy, it could be 24 hours and 7 days. And even that work schedule could ruin your date, hahaha.. Hey you out there, who did crew call when we were hanging out, ring a bell?! hahaha... I then realized that it consumed too much time, too much energy. I contemplated then I realized I just wanna be an ordinary woman, I wanna have my own family, I don't wanna be 24 hours at the office. But I do love communication industry, my passion is here. But what is it? I actually had no concrete form of brand in my mind. What I know at that time, I want to be somebody in this area, communications.

2008-2010 -- 2nd phase of my career journey. I was a project manager in a well-known advertising agency. Maybe the term project manager is too high profile, let's change it into project management staff, hehehe. It was fun also. This creative industry has shaped me into some crazy, bold, more fun and weird person. I was getting closer to brand, I handled many big and famous brand. Though I was not an account or creative person at that company, I still had so much learning. It was the moment I know, I wanna be in a brand team, become a brand person, and in a client side. After 2 years and several months, I moved to a company, a client side, my current office.

mid 2010-end 2011 -- 3rd phase of my career journey. When I was interviewed I didn't know for sure about my position. But it was close to my goal, brand. I told the interviewer at that time (then later on became my manager) that I actually wanted to be in brand team. He told that in the company, employees had opportunity to develop themselves and moved to another dept was so possible. He said I could join in brand team someday, when there was opportunity. Then after a year, there was an opportunity. I applied then alhamdulillah I got it!

early 2012-... -- 1st phase of my journey in brand. This will be exciting, colorful and awesome. Ya Rab, please guide and bless me always. I'm ready to take this challenge. Bismillaahirrahmaanirrahim...


And still...

Love u, life. :D

Getting over you is hard, but it's not impossible.

Getting over our hopes and dreams is hard, but it's not impossible.

Letting go of you and your family is hard, but it's not impossible.

Being ikhlas to see you happy with someone else is hard, but it's not impossible.

Being ikhlas to accept the fact that you've changed is hard, but it's not impossible.

Being careless about you and your life is hard, but it's not impossible.

As I always tell my self, this is Allah's will. All I can do is surrender, moving on and leaving them behind. I must embrace my own future with new hopes and dreams.

This is just another chapter of my life stories. Okay, maybe it is when the conflicts and all the drama are getting more frustrating. But, in other episodes there will be beautiful closing and nice beginning to start a new season.

Yeah, and still.. Love u, life. :D

Tak mau lagi aku percaya
Pada semua kasih sayangmu
Tak mau lagi aku tersentuh
Pada semua pengakuanmu

#
Kamu takkan mengerti rasa sakit ini
Kebohongan dari mulut manismu

Reff:
Pergilah kau
Pergi dari hidupku
Bawalah semua rasa bersalahmu
Pergilah kau
Pergi dari hidupku
Bawalah rahasiamu yang tak ingin kutahui

Tak mau lagi aku terjerat
Pada semua janji-janjimu
Tak mau lagi aku terkait
Pada semua permainanmu

Back to #, Reff

Bertahun-tahun bersama
Kupercayaimu
Kubanggakan kamu
Berikan s’galanya
Aku tak mau lagi
Ku tak mau lagi huoo… Yeee…Hee…

Back to Reff

Pergilah kau
Tak ingin kutahui
Pergilah kau
Ku tahui

The revolves around the sun. Even climate has changed. And people do, too.

We always expect people to do good to us. To consistently revolve around our life without any change, always with positivity and nice attitudes. To always walk beside us with honesty, sincerity and non-stop caring. But like our mother earth, people change whether we like it or not. It's not only circle that can be 360 degrees, but also with people's. They can behave, act, talk, think, love differently.

No matter how hard we try, no matter how hard we do effort. Their hearts belong to Allah. Only Allah can do anything, even to flip their hearts just like a feather flying.

Ya Rab, please guide him. Please show him Your way. Please guide him to taubat. Please embrace him with Your absolute Rahim. There are parents who love him a lot. There's a brother who adores him. There's a family who cares so much about him. Please bring him back to his family. I love him and his family because of You, ya Rab. I beg You please... Amin ya rabbal alamin...

Love u, life.

Everything seems tougher now. To be honest, I don't know what to choose. I don't know how to trust you again. You've hurt me so much. You've lied to me, you cheated, you betrayed me, you broke promises, you faked vows, you were rude to me, you easily got tense, you didn't appreciate me, you fooled me, you hide the truth, you didn't prioritize me...

Tell me how to trust u after u did all those things?
What will you do to fix all things?
What can you prove to me?
You can do extra efforts? How? You never show me. You never take initiative.
It is what I want, not what you want. You don't do it because of me, no because you want to do it to fix your mistakes.
I want you to do it, I always tell you what you have to do. But you never take initiative, what can you do to make me happy, to make me trust you again?

I don't know. You can't remember how to be AeN, my AeN. You've forgotten how to be my AeN.

I don't know. It seems you don't love me at all. You just don't wanna get embarrassed. It is not because you want to see me happy by doing anything to pay your mistakes.

It's getting harder, really...

I lost my black nokia 6300 that I unintentionally dropped in the cab. The mobile phone that's been a loyal company for at least 3 years. The 2nd 6300 that I had lost,the same tragedy as the 1st one. I didn't do my usual standard safety procedure, take a note of cab door no, while getting on a cab cause busy phoning. As a result, I couldn't track the cab.




Another Game Over...

Congratulation, you've turned him into someone you want.

Congratulation for making him sacrifice the principal things in his life : honesty, trust, faith and loyalty.

Congratulation for helping him to be an actor, a very good one.

Congratulation for supporting him to keep lying and betraying me, his parents and our family.

Congratulation, you're the best.

=)

Feeling happy + butterflies in my stomach = What a day! :))

Hari ini hari apa hayoooo? Hari Sabtuuuu, hehehe. Ada apa hayoooo? Ahhh rahasiaaa, hahaha. Yang jelas rumusnya udah ditulis di awal tulisan ini, hohoho. Ehhmm coba tebak2...

- Masa2 pendekatan sm seseorang yg kita suka namanya apa hayoooo?
- Setelah itu, orang yg kita suka bilang sesuatu dan diterima terjadilah hubungan apa namanya hayoooo?
- Makin lama lebih dari suka apa namanya yaaa?
- Makin lama makin sayang terus jadi apa hayooo?
- Kalo hubungannya bukan main2 niatannya disebut apa hayoooo?
- Kalo udah serius, setelah pacaran tahapnya apa?
- Nah tahapan di antara pacaran sm nikah ada apa aja hayooooo?

Jadi kira2 hari ini masuk tahapan yg mana hayooooo? hehehe...

Let's play blue's clues...

Ada ini nih...


Terus, ada ini jugaaaa...


Petunjuk lainnyaaaa...


Diwarnai dengaaaan...


Dan..


Hihihihi... Kira2 apa hayoooooo?! ;D

Oia, ibu juga kasih beberapa oleh2 buat akuuuuuu... Makasih ibu sayang. Really love it. Mmuaaah...



Lalu, lalu setelah itu ada apa lagi?

Forever can never be long enough for me
To feel like I've had long enough with you
Forget the world now we won't let them see
But there's one thing left to do

Now that the weight has lifted
Love has surely shifted my way
Marry Me
Today and every day
Marry Me
If I ever get the nerve to say "Hello" in this cafe
Say you will
Mm-hmm
Say you will
Mm-hmm

Together can never be close enough for me
Feel like I am close enough to you
You wear white and I'll wear out the words I love you
And you're beautiful
Now that the wait is over
And love and has finally shown her my way
Marry me
Today and every day
Marry me
If I ever get the nerve to say "Hello" in this cafe
Say you will
Mm-hmm
Say you will
Mm-hmm

Promise me
You'll always be
Happy by my side
I promise to
Sing to you
When all the music dies

And marry me
Today and everyday
Marry me
If I ever get the nerve to say "Hello" in this cafe
Say you will
Mm-hmm
Say you will
Marry me
Mm-hmm

Aaahhh what a day!

Love u, life. =D

Sepulang kerja dijemput, mampir ke rumah nenek, ketemu sepupu endut, main ke rumah sambil nonton dvd and makan malem bareng. Oh what an evening...

Di directorate gw ada acara yg rutin diadain sebulan sekali. Cuma acara kumpul2 aja si, cuma selalu ada tema berbeda tiap bulannya. Acara bulanan directorate gw ini sempet mandeg beberapa bulan lalu, tp mulai digalakkan lagi, hehehe. Nah, bulan ini ada lomba foto. Ada 3 kategori, me and my brand, me and my customer dan me and my team. Berkat bantuan seorang teman yg rela2 foto2in gw sm team gw sehabis workshop kemarin, akhirnya gw mengirimkan satu foto untuk kategori me and my team. Ini dia fotonya...



Daaan, hari rabu kemarin pengumumannya. Hari itu dresscodenya adalah all about branding stuff. Jadi saya pake masquerade yg pernah jd souvenir event buat customer.



Ternyata, foto kiriman gw berhasil menaaaang. Alhamdulillah, berkat dukungan team saya, fotografer, mamih, bapak, ade, kakak.. *mulai lebay* hahaha... Hadiahnya lumayan buat makan2 tempe mendoan smp keblinger, hahahaha..



Tapi setelah kebahagiaan menang lomba foto, kamis kemarin pas pulang dijemput popos, ternyata gw baru sadar tangkai kacamata kesayangan dan satu2nya, patah. Hikss.. Lagi kangen2an sm si popos, eh pas liat kacamata patah jd nangis dah, huhuhu... Padahal gw cinta bener sm kacamata ini, huhuhu..



Berarti mesti ganti baru deh. Jadi siang tadi dengan ditemani popos, akhirnya berangkutslah ke kelapa gading buat keliling cari kacamata. Dan akhirnya jeng, jeng, jeng jeng. Dapet juga di salah satu apotik di sana. Agak mirip sm yg kemarin, cuma ini lebih ramping dan ada nose padnya. Dan berita baiknya adalah, nose padnya pas di hidung gw! hahahaha. Secara hidung ini cukup sekian dan terima kasih alias pesek. *rofl* Pulangnya mamam malem ramen... Yummyyy... Makasih popos... :*

Love u, life.. =D

Just wanna share something about bad influence from a person to another person. Unfortunately, it happened to some people I know. Some even quite close. Well, that bad influence has changed that person significantly, some are very insignificant. It's various, from the change of a mindset, personalities and attitude.

For example bad influence in love life. Love is blind. Ehm, maybe it's true. But, you're not blind. At least your heart and mind. When you're close to someone, and they give you bad influence for your life, guess you need to rethink. You're not blind to feel that yourself has changed because of that person. You're not blind in the mind that that person has transferred you into different personality. Before, you were a honest, trustful, truthful, and faithful person. Then, you got close with someone. It seems sweet but it's actually bitter. It seems so good, but it's actually inappropriate. Then, you become someone else. You become a liar, a very good liar. Not only to your lover, friends but the worst is to your parents. Promise, vow in the name of God or prophet are broken, not sacred anymore. You were gentle and soft person, then became a monster just in a second. Different personality, made by bad influencer. That bad influence has blinded you, blinded your heart, mind and even your faith.

Then, the bad influencer themselves. Maybe God sent them to your life to teach you something. To teach you about losing someone/something precious, honesty, faith, respect, dignity and trust. The bad influencer may be a form of devil trying to consistently seduce and spread the evil air. They have no shame. They never think that they have changed a person in a bad way. Sacrifice for a lover may look romantic and sweet. But if it sacrifices your honest heart, respect to others then it is not romantic or sweet anymore. It's mean, evil, really. I never understand, why such people are really proud for being an evil person. The lover has been tamed, they do whatever the bad influencer ask them to do. Although for that, the lover has lied to everyone. Not just to his friends, collegues, but also betrayed and lied to God, mom, dad and best friends.

In this case, I think it's somekind of a tremendous pleasure to them. That whatever the cost, the lover has obeyed to what they ask, they want. The bad influencer doesn't care about norms, about others' feeling or about what's right or wrong. They only care about themselves, about their satisfaction, about their lust. So selfish and evil.

Astaghfirullah...

When you know it's wrong, it's not right, inappropriate, just stop it. Dont get blinded too long. Dont let evil inside you or from others make you blind and erase genuine and kind personality you have. I'm telling you, it's never worthy to sacrifice those good things only for a bad influencer.

Love you, live... =D

Kemarin diundang kakak tertua papa popos ke rumahnya buat ngobrol2. Bisa dibilang, buat keluarga papa, udah kayak pengganti orangtua. Selain ngobrol sm mamak jg ngobrol sm kakak sepupu AeN. About what? Apalagi kalo bukan soal pernikahan. :)

Sambil nunggu kakak pulang, kita ngobrol sambil bercanda liat keponakan AeN yg lagi doyan2nya main. Lucu banget tingkahnya. Sempet deg2an juga mau ngomong apa ya mamak smp ngundang gw dateng sgala. Akhirnya setelah kakak datang mengalirlah pembicaraan serius soal pernikahan.

Kakak membuka pembicaraan dgn bilang bahwa menikah itu berarti menyempurnakan din kita. Karena AeN dan lisna sudah serius mengambil keputusan menikah, maka harus tau masing2 kelebihan dan kekurangan. Harus bisa menerima apa kekurangan dan kelebihan pasangan masing2. Kalian tumbuh dalam keluarga berbeda, cara didik yg beda dan adat yg jg beda. Jadi masing2 harus saling pengertian, saling mengimbangi. AeN harus bisa jadi imam yg baik bagi lisna dan anak2 kalian kelak. Lisna jg harus bisa jd makmum yg baik dan mengingatkan suami.

Nikah itu ibadah dek. Yang namanya manusia ibadah, pasti setan dan iblis suka sekali ganggu. Bentuknya bisa macam2, dr dlm diri sendiri, orang lain sampai keluarga jauh. Godaan itu pasti ada, namanya juga setan suka sekali mengganggu manusia yg ingin beribadah. Karena kalian berdua udah memutuskan menikah dek, harus istiqamah sm keputusan kalian. Walaupun ada pria lain mendekati, Lisna harus tetap istiqamah. Walaupun AeN digoda perempuan lain, AeN harus tetap istiqamah. Tidak boleh meladeni godaan2 itu dek, karena itu setan yg mengganggu dek.

Menikah itu juga bukan antara kalian berdua saja. Menikah itu berarti AeN menikahi keluarga lisna dan lisna menikahi keluarga AeN. Mencari calon istri atau suami itu jgn yg hanya bagus luarnya dan jgn cuma kamu yg suka. Mencari calon suami atau istri itu yg jg baik untuk keluarga, yg diridhai keluarga. Nah kalian kan sudah setuju menikah, alhamdulillah keluarga jg sudah merestui dan meridhai. Jadi kedepannya mesti mempertimbangkan kedua belah pihak secara adil. Ini maunya A, ini maunya B. Bagaimana nanti kalian menyikapinya dgn sabar dan bijaksana.

Dalam menikah itu harus jujur, terbuka, saling percaya dan pengertian. Jujur apa adanya, misalnya soal keuangan. Ini dek, penghasilan AeN. Apa2 harus dibicarakan dan disepakati. Begini lho model yg AeN mau, atau ini lho yg Lisna harapkan. Semua harus terbuka. Dan perempuan itu kalo banyak tanya bukan berarti tidak percaya atau curiga. Itu namanya bentuk perhatian. Dan perempuan jg tidak boleh mengekang, asal lelaki tahu mana batasan yg boleh dan dilarang. Walaupun perempuan jg mesti waspada ni kalo laki2nya berbohong.

Daaaannn masih banyaaaaak perbincangan yg lain. Dan alhamdulillah, pembicaraan serius kemarin malam jg ditutup dgn kabar baik. Makasih banyak ya mamak udah bantuin pengurusan booking dsb. *huuug* =D

Next? Tetap istiqamah seperti yg kakak bilang. Semoga Allah memberikan yg terbaik buat kita berdua dan juga keluarga. Seperti yg udah Lisna pernah bilang, restu orangtua, keluarga udah kita kantongin, jd ke depan insya Allah ada jalannya. Tinggal ikhtiar dan tawakal.

Love u, life . =D

For all ladies wherever you are, or for people who think they're lady enough. ;D
Just wanna share my thoughts about you and maybe your man, husband to be (or you think he's your man?! :P).

- Does he remind you not to use sexy dress? Hun, your back is too open. Your skirt is too short, your sleeve is too low. If not, think again? Is it love or lust? Cos imam-to-be will of course remind you about that. He won't let his wife-to-be to dress up too sexy and let other men see her sexiness. Backless, short pants, mini skirt, tank top, sexy dress, shirt with cleavage.

- I like to hang out, going to the club, dugem until midnite or even over it. And he's cool with that. Really? If he's cool, he won't let his lady to visit the club until midnite or even morning comes. He won't be okay seeing his lady or wife to be drinks alcohol or dances madly on the club floor.

- I'm serious with you, he said. Really? Rethink. Did he introduce you to his family? To his very very best friends? Proudly introduce you as his lady to his co-workers? Does he tell her mom about his love to you? Do his parents even know you? No?

- We always have fun, see movies, eat good food, traveling. When he's broken,does he tell you the truth? Are you be by his side when he's in trouble? In poor condition? Walking by his side when his motorcycle run out fuel? Take a public bus, angkot when you're going to cinema perhaps? Or he always drives a car when meeting you? It's not essential. When you're gonna be as one, you must experience the luxury, good and bad things with him and he also wanna share it to you.

- He likes to hang out with my best friends. We even have a chat group together. Does he ask you to hang out with his buddies? Having vacation together? Ask you to accompany him to his best mate wedding?

- You think he's close to your family. Are you close to his family too? Does he ask you to his family gathering? Introduce you to his big family? Proudly tell them that you're his wife to be? Send hug and kisses with his mom and unties? Do you?

- He really cares about you. Visit you when you're sick, accompany you to see doctor. Where are you when he's really sick? Are you the 1st person he calls when he's in pain? Are you the person who takes care of him when he's ill? Are you by his side when he's feeling unwell? No? Seldom? Or never?

- You gave him couple t-shirt, same accessories, even ring. Does he also wear it on other occasions? So that he can show it off to his colleagues? To his family? When they said, wow cool tshirt. Hei, this is from my girlfriend.

- You think you communicate very good. You gave him gadget to support it. Does he call you from his home when he's got no pulse on his mobile phone? Does he send you voucher, although in a very small amount and say, "so that you can keep calling me"?

- I'm gonna marry him and he's surely gonna marry me. Contemplate. Does he propose you? Does he ask his family to propose you? Has he told his family about marrying you? You're not gonna marry him and himself. But you're also gonna marry his family and your family will marry his. Is it happening? No? Then, how come you're so sure he's gonna marry you?

- He promises me that he won't leave me. He won't leave you because of you and his love to you? Or he won't leave you because you asked him to? Because you've given him too much? Even something you mustn't give until you're married? He won't leave you because you demanded so? Because you think you've got the key to hold him? Or because you always beg? And look him with sad eyes whenever he wants to leave you? It's not because of his sincerity. It's because you think there's price he has to pay for so much things you've given to him. And it's not healthy. It's mean.

- You have same religion? Do you pray together? Seeing church and praise the lord together? He's your imam, you're his makmum and you both do shalat together often? Never? Once or twice? Need more than just being together to be solid.


So, love or lust? Care or pity? Sincere or with intention? Serious or only play?
Promise is old-fashion, lady. Action is forever trend.
You decide, ladies...


Love you, life. =D

Weekend ini dihabiskan dengan menemani popos maripos yg lagi sakit. Dari jumat malam demam sampe pucet banget. Jumat meeting seharian di luar, jadi ga bisa nemenin dan jadi kepikiran terus sepanjang meeting. Hiks... Tapi dibayar pas weekend ini.

Sabtunya nemenin AeN dari siang smp malam. Pijitin AeN sampe sendawa2 gitu, hehehe. Beliin minuman kesehatan dr jahe sampe susu. Dasar calon emak2, hahaha. Nonton dvd, trus nemenin main xbox juga. Soooo boooy stuuufff... hahaha. Tapi seneng bisa nemenin dan ngerawat AeN yg lagi sakit. *smooch*


biar sakit, tetep senyuuumm...


AeN shalat, gw foto2, hihihi


DVD timeeeee


nyunyuuun popos & embem


senja dari balkon rumah AeN


nemenin ci popos main xbox sampe malem menjelang



Nah tadi kebetulan ga bisa jengukin dari siang karena ada arisan keluarga dan ulangtahun sepupu. Diminta jadi pembawa acaranya ulangtahun Zidane. Hadeuhh gara2 sibuk jadi emce malah lupa foto2. *tepok jidat* Tapi ini penampakan the birthday boy yg endut banget, hohoho. Semoga zidane jadi anak sholeh, sehat, pinter, ganteng dan cihuy selalu. Amiiinnn...



Selesai acara zidane, ke rumah AeN buat jenguk sebentar AeN popos. Nganterin jamu dan nasi uduk, hehehe. Jamu buat ci popos yg lagi sakit. Ketemu mama, papa, ipi juga. Mama bilang salam ke mamih dan minta maaf belum bisa datang ke sana karena nunggu mawo yg masih di kampung. That's okay, mam.. *cipika-cipiki* *bighug*

Get well soon, AeN poposku... *bighug*

Love u, life... =D

Gw ngerasa murahan banget na. Gw udah tau dia udah punya pacar, udah mau nikah lagi. Tapi tetep aja gw deketin dia. Gw deketin terus, gw curhat, gw lakuin apapun supaya dia perhatiin dan simpati sm gw.

Sepotong curhatan temen gw yg pernah gw ceritain kalo dia ada di posisi yg sebaliknya sm gw. Dan sekarang dia udah berhenti ngelakuin itu semua. Alhamdulillah Allah menyadarkan dia.

Cerita temen gw bikin gw tercenung *gaya ya bahasanya :p*. The opposite of mine. Awalnya cuma temenan biasa. Terus temen gw suka sm si cowo ini. Kayak coba2 dia bilang dia sms or telp2 buat sekedar say hi smp ngajak ketemuan iseng. Dan jahatnya si, dr awal temen gw udah tau kalo cowo ini udah punya pasangan, serius pula. Tapi setan sepertinya lebih mendominasi pikiran dan hati temen gw. Kalo mengutip yg temen gw bilang, gw bitchy banget na. Sumpah deh. Gw cuma bisa ketawa garing, hahahaha. Singkat cerita si cowo ini akhirnya tergodalah. Kucing dikasih ikan bugil ya langsung dicaplok ya bow. Astaghfirullah..

Terus gw ga tahan buat nanya, lo ngga mikirin perasaan cewenya? Terus temen gw bilang, ya waktu itu sih gw ga mikirin ya na. Yg penting gw puas, gw bisa dapetin cowo itu, bisa dapet perhatiannya walaupun jd orang kedua dan jadi perusak hubungan mereka. Yg penting apa yg gw mau tercapai. Perasaan orang lain entar dulu deh, yg penting perasaan gw dulu. Apalagi kalo gw bisa jalan sama dia, trus dia blm pernah jalan sm cewe itu ke tempat itu rasanya puaaaasss banget. *jeb jeb jeb*

Sekali dua kali cowo itu bilang kalo hubungan mereka berdua ngga bener dan dia ngga mungkin nyakitin cewenya lebih jauh. Tapi u know what apa yg temen gw lakuin.

Gw pura2 sakit na tiap dia bilang kita harus udahin semuanya. Ini ngga bener. Dan gw langsung nangis mengiba. Kebetulan dia orangnya ngga tegaan. Jadi luluh lagi deh. Jahat banget ya gw?!

Dari mulai sakit kepala, sakit maag sampe sakit di dadanya. Pokoknya dia lakuin supaya cowo itu ngga pergi dr sisi dia. Astaghfirullah. Gw tanya lagi, cewenya ngga curiga? Temen gw bilang ya curiga, tp dia cuek bebek aja. Malah makin menjadi2 karena dia ngerasa menang dan bisa show off hubungan terlarangnya dgn bebas. Belum lagi sahabatnya malah support dia. Setali tiga uang. Hadeuuuh...

Tapi gw heran ya na, cewenya sabarnya ampun2an. Gw pikir dengan gw posting foto2 mesra gw, YMin dia dan bilang kalo cowonya selingkuh, tuh cewe bakalan mundur dan ninggalin cowo gw. Tapi ternyata engga. Tapi anehnya cowo gw juga ga mau ninggalin cewenya.

Atau mungkin cewenya bego, gw bilang ke temen gw, hahaha. Bedanya tipis sih, hahaha. Well, dia lanjut cerita. Pokoknya gw kasih apa yg cewe itu ngga kasih deh. Bahkan sesuatu yg "penting" na. *tepok jidat* Yah pokoknya apapun gw lakuin deh supaya dia tetep stay sm gw. Terus kenapa lo bisa tiba2 sadar?

Sahabat gw ditinggal kawin sama cowonya. Cowonya selingkuh sampe selingkuhannya hamil. Gw ga tega banget ngeliatnya. Rasanya mau bunuh diri aja gw.

Gw? Cuma bisa menghela nafas panjang dan terdiam. Sekarang lo masih sm cowo itu? Gw akhirnya memutuskan mundur dan tau diri, kata temen gw. Gw malu banget na sm diri gw sendiri, ngerasa muraaaaah bgt kemarin itu. Dia sempet ngerasa aneh gw kayak gitu, tp dia bisa terima jg. Kayaknya dia jg udah mengalami konflik batin hebat. Yah orangtuanya jg taunya dia sama cewe itu. Walaupun kayaknya dia jg masih sayang sm gw, tp udahlah gw harus stop. Gw kayak khianatin sahabat gw sendiri na. Ngerasa jahat banget gwnya. Ya gw tau si cowo itu jg jahat sm gw, tp kalo gw ngga ngeladenin dan ngga mepet dia terus kan ga akan kejadian kyk gini.

Gw inshaf na...

Gw? Cuma bisa istighfar dan senyum kecut... Well anyway, it's good for her. Alhamdulillah udah disadarkan dan dia udah inshaf sama apa yg udah dia lakuin. Insya Allah ada balasan untuk kebaikannya. Amin... Salut sama lo neng!

Lagunya NKOTB, lama beneeer, hahahaha... Iya, prosesnya step by step memang tp insya Allah selalu ada progress, hehehe..

Tadi AeN main ke rumah dan kasih tau kabar baik, kalo ma uwo udah buat janji sm orang gedungnya buat ketemuan buat booking. Wooow getting closer, hehehe. Nanti pulang dr kampung mau ketemuan dan ngomongin masalah perbookingan itu.

Teruuss, tadi main domino dan saya memenangkannya dgn skor 5-3 dan 3-2, hahaha. Im the queen of gaple, hahahaha... It was a lot of fun. Dasar anak2 dodol, hahaha. Niatan mau silaturahmi ke rumah teman baik yg kakaknya baru meninggal, tp krn temen gw lg ke gereja jadilah stay di rumah.

Tak sabar menunggu akhir maret, hohoho. Oia, saat hati sedang gundah gulana teringat kata2 beliau...

"You're like my own daughter. I can't see you being hurt. I won't give my permission or blessing to them, to that woman. I've seen the photograph and everything, she's not a respectful woman by doing so. And I really didn't respect the thing she did. Be patient, dear..."

Sometimes, a couple of questions pop up and make me wonder. It is about heart, tolerance, dignity, respect, love, shame, evil.

I never agree on the idea of having affair, cheating, being "another" person in a relationship, and being happy by destructing someone's happiness or dreams. We as women can't just close our eyes and take for granted. If we know it's wrong and it hurts another person's heart, ruining a relationship, why should you carry on that evil thing?

I sometimes question these...
- How come you can be "another" person in a relationship without feeling guilty or even thinking about there's someone hurts because of what you're doing?
- Are you satisfied by hurting other people?
- Why are you doing with someone who has a relationship? Why can't you control yourself?
- Are you sure you have dignity as a human? You and yourself even don't respect others by doing so.
- Don't you think if you have sister/brother, best friend, mom/dad and they are cheated on, betrayed, are you happy?
- Are you happy looking at your beloved ones betrayed?
- Are you happy when knowing the fact that your best friend's spouse cheated on him/her? Don't you ever think that what if the affair you've done is experienced by the people you love the most?
- Will you let and support your beloved sister/brother/best friend when you know they are doing something wrong, cheating, having affair, and hurting someone's heart?
- Will you be just quiet and act like you don't know?
- Are you sure you're doing right when you start a relationship with someone who has a couple, a spouse?

Really, sometimes I just don't get it. Yet, I always pray that I don't do something evil like that or even just close to it. It is never right. Never...

Nauzubillah min zalik...